ORLANDO, FL, March 6,
/MidnightOutpost.com/ "Where can I go? Now this is a place to go
when there is no other place to go at midnight.”– Whom To
Go To –There was an article in the Orlando Sentinel last week
titled “Are you dating a narcissist?” The Are you dating
a narcissist Article is derived from the source of information is the
book... “It's
All About Him: How to Identify and Avoid the Narcissist Male
! (CFI, 2009). Our culture breeds it.”
These
are the more important characteristics: •Is controlling and
manipulative
•Is obsessed with his/her image
•Avoids
intimacy and sex
•Can't describe love
•Finds
no joy in giving
•Acts as if you do not exist
•Escapes
or disappears
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•Feels grandiose and
self-important for reasons not supported by reality
•Obsesses
with fantasies about unlimited success, fame, power or
omnipotence
•Believes he/she is unique and special and
can be understood by and associate with only other unique or
high-status people
•Requires excessive admiration,
adulation, attention and affirmation
•Feels a sense of
entitlement
•Exploits others without guilt or
remorse
•Is devoid of empathy
•Tends to be
envious of others or believes others are envious of
him/her
•Displays arrogant and haughty behavior
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I read this article because
someone that I know insist upon her self-destruction by going to
people like this for her bonding pair, “couple”, boy
friend/girl friend relationships. She is doing this again! IF YOU
CANNOT LEARN FROM YOUR OWN MISTAKES, THEN WHO CAN YOU LEARN FROM? I
believe that she is listening to her momma INSTEAD OF HERSELF, “A
Mommas Gurl!” Her momma is either doing it herself or causing
her to chase away EVERYONE that is honest and that has the ability to
love her! The narcissist cannot love anyone!
My former best friends
ex-wife (now wife, then ex-wife, now wife again?) HAD this on her myspace.com or facebook page, “Trust no one,
everyone is a liar”. When I saw this for the first time in the late 1990's, she
was the wife of my best friend and I asked her this, “What kind
of people have you been around?” She didn't answer that
question! “Everyone is not a liar, there are those that SHOULD
be trusted!”, I said.
Why does this person believe
that “everyone is a liar”? Because she is chasing away
the honest, caring people as soon as and as deliberately as she
can!!!!! All that is left around her are the liars and those that
cannot LOVE! THE NARCISSIST! That is all she sees. hm... Tell
me Ma, what's it gonna be? Are you going to stay in control of
daughter keeping her with “bad boi's” so that she will
run back to you when the relationship fails
OR
Are you going to allow her
to keep honest, loving people around her (thus, chasing away “bad
boi's – the narcissist) and she will see that you are not one
of these loving people and abandon you (the narcissist) ? Ma, what's
it gonna be, are you going to become loving yourself, or cling to
controlling someone that you don't love?
I've never seen a Mommas
Gurl Momma do the right thing (and allow gurl to have her own
decisions and her own life, being independent, free and happy,
becoming girl/woman – momma is too insecure/co-dependent for
that!!! And thus momma continue the corruption, creates in daughter
the same issues as herself!).
However, I have seen
Mommas Gurls defeat Momma and become girl/woman for themselves.
Becoming independent, free and happy! Seeing those who love her
already and then going to them instead of momma (which doesn't love
her) and not going toward others that do not love her, and not going
toward those that do not have the capacity of love!
One
Mommas Gurl defeating momma... The Classic Mommas
Gurl
problem. (Dilemma by Kelly
Rowland
and Nelly
. Patti
Labelle
is the Momma
.) The boy friend that momma wants gurl to have and how girl gets the
boy friend that girl really wants... What does Kelly do to solve
that dilemma, watch the video, all the way to the end and see for
yourself. Video originally embedded June 17, 2009
Therefore, I will continue
to do what I believe is the thing for me to do (that is, help every
Mommas Gurl to become curable and become themselves, thus going to
and attempting to achieve their own objective for themselves and then
abandoning momma and getting their mommas objective for their momma
and therefore, NOW allowing her momma to gain her own objective for
herself – that is, forcing onto her momma her own independence
– that is, if she is willing to have it! – my
observations – I've never seen a mommas gurl momma that was
willing to accept responsibility (especially for herself)!!!! That is
another chapter however, it will not to be included here! Maybe NEVER
to be included, because I currently believe that allmommas gurl mommas are incurable!)
So, to whom do you go
toward?
Do you go toward
someone that you love (ie.
Someone that fits your prejudice)
OR
someone that loves (cares
for) you already?
I believe that I'll write
some of this article in 1st person.
I go toward those that love
(care for) me already
instead of
those that I love (I am
attracted to, care for)! (a mommas gurl does this, doesn't she – goes to momma)
Why that? Won't I miss
someone that I love and want for a couple (bonding pair)
relationship? NO! This is why...
If I wait for them to come
to me and
they do – then it is
no different that if I went to them in the first place, and if
they do NOT – then it
would NOT have been a serious long term relationship anyway! (they
cannot see love and therefore go toward it)
These are among the tenets
for love and are some of the characteristics of Love, I believe!
Love never dies (once I
love someone then I always love them – I can't make it stop)
It is impossible to
hurt someone that I love knowingly and on purpose
I am helping the one
that I love go toward THEIR objective
If I go toward someone that
I love (someone (something) that fits my prejudice) then they could
be an ax murder, a narcissist, a mommas gurl, a mommas gurl momma
etc.
If I go toward someone that
loves me already (looking for alternative explanations of the truth)
– then they cannot hurt me, must be helping me achieve my
objective, and will be around for the long term, also in another
lifetime (maybe we'll meet) as a soul mate!
Back out of 1st
person (exclusively)...
So, in my case, why does a
person chase away someone that loves her? Those above tenets, I will
NOT chase away from me! Someone that is helping me, won't hurt me and
there for me in the long term – I'll NOT chase that away from
me (knowingly and on purpose)! Also, I'll try to NOT run away from it
(knowingly and on purpose)!
Her (the person that I know)
current objective must be inconsistent with that which is in her best
interest! Is it, MOMMAS OBJECTIVE? hm... That is one scenario, isn't
it? That is what I see!
If YOU are attempting to
accomplish Yo mommas objective then I'll get out of the way so as not
to hinder you in your attempt of achieving that!!!! You must come to
me after this because I have stopped helping you, this is because I
believe that you achieving yo mommas objective for her is NOT in your
interest! I'll leave that to the corrupt to help you acquire yo
mommas objective for her. That is those that want to take advantage
of you, isn't it? hm... (if you are a mommas grul, you must come to
me now, and let me know that you are getting back to YOUR objective
because I am leaving you to self-destruct on your own! And I am NOT
watching you while you self-destruct, either! I don't like to see
that!)
Peanuts has become my
favorite comic!
There is no such thing as
coincidence!
Never believe/trust Lucy.
Never believe/trust Snoopy.
! (CFI, 2009). Our culture breeds it.”
problem. (Dilemma by 
